Stress as we know it is different for different people.For some childrens exams leads to stress, for some a presentation in office, an impending decision, relationships etc.Circumstances that lead to stress are our weak points and we need to look at them.Sometimes a long-gone mis-understood situation creates unhappiness and stress as its unresolved-I once had a patient who as a child was kept with grandparents since they could not afford to keep him.He kept telling me that they did not love him-I told him they loved you so much that inspite of their love and attachment for you they kept him with grandparents so that he could get good life(other evidences for this were present but he did not see).
Stress will always be there in life for everyone.How we deal with it is important inorder to be happy.Even during stress one needs to be capable so that our health is maintained.Also our relationships.It helps to keep our body is a relaxed state and allows medicines(if you take) to work.Engagement with stress and thoughts are important.
Here are 7 steps to reduce any stress-works everytime that I have seen
1)You-what are you? Answer simply and openly-are you shy, greedy, with low self esteem, rash,loud-all these are perfectly ok. Everyone has a fault.But you should know whats yours-look out for what people say about you or ask.So if you are shy-of course a presentation will stress you.No problem -today i have stress since i have a presentation.I believe no sane person will not give you work just because you did not present it well.Your work should speak for itself.
2)Situation-sometimes there is going to be stress and its nobodys fault since the situation or circumstance is so powerful.Getting married to a man who has kids.You and kids--it cant be easy no matter how hard you try.If you know you are better.
3)What can you do? Always try to find out what you can do and go ahead and do it.Dont let egos come in the way-instead of why should i-why shouldnt i ?Doing something helps reduce stress and you can face yourself better--you tried.
4)What you cannot do? In a traffic jam...RELAX-put on the music.Many other situations where if the other person refuses to understand you cant do anything.Wait patiently for the penny to drop...
5)Can you accept it-why not? If your son wants to marry someone why cant you accept it? Can you do anything meaningful to set it right? Is it your ego thats not accepting, social status, your so called mothers love? Nothing should occupy centre space than every persons happiness.Give space for others to do what they want children included and reduce stress.
6)Learn to live with it-I had a friend who has a gay son and when she finally realised that its not some whim she gave time and has accepted it and learned to live.Not easy but FLEXIBILITY reduces stress
7)The best way is to thank for what you have.A job,home,loving husband,hands,legs,eyes -all that many people will anything to have.
Then aint you lucky ?
Stress will always be there in life for everyone.How we deal with it is important inorder to be happy.Even during stress one needs to be capable so that our health is maintained.Also our relationships.It helps to keep our body is a relaxed state and allows medicines(if you take) to work.Engagement with stress and thoughts are important.
Here are 7 steps to reduce any stress-works everytime that I have seen
1)You-what are you? Answer simply and openly-are you shy, greedy, with low self esteem, rash,loud-all these are perfectly ok. Everyone has a fault.But you should know whats yours-look out for what people say about you or ask.So if you are shy-of course a presentation will stress you.No problem -today i have stress since i have a presentation.I believe no sane person will not give you work just because you did not present it well.Your work should speak for itself.
2)Situation-sometimes there is going to be stress and its nobodys fault since the situation or circumstance is so powerful.Getting married to a man who has kids.You and kids--it cant be easy no matter how hard you try.If you know you are better.
3)What can you do? Always try to find out what you can do and go ahead and do it.Dont let egos come in the way-instead of why should i-why shouldnt i ?Doing something helps reduce stress and you can face yourself better--you tried.
4)What you cannot do? In a traffic jam...RELAX-put on the music.Many other situations where if the other person refuses to understand you cant do anything.Wait patiently for the penny to drop...
5)Can you accept it-why not? If your son wants to marry someone why cant you accept it? Can you do anything meaningful to set it right? Is it your ego thats not accepting, social status, your so called mothers love? Nothing should occupy centre space than every persons happiness.Give space for others to do what they want children included and reduce stress.
6)Learn to live with it-I had a friend who has a gay son and when she finally realised that its not some whim she gave time and has accepted it and learned to live.Not easy but FLEXIBILITY reduces stress
7)The best way is to thank for what you have.A job,home,loving husband,hands,legs,eyes -all that many people will anything to have.
Then aint you lucky ?
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